Values are what is important to us, it’s what we ‘value’, and what gives us purpose. They are the foundation that drives most, if not all, our decisions in life. Most of us can identify, at our core, of 5-7 values.  These core values are unique to us and if 2 people have the same value, such as adventure, each of them will express them differently in their daily actions and language. Honoring our values and being in sync with them is an expression of Care & Love of Self.

Values help us make wiser decisions

Values help us through challenging times

Values help us keep on track

Values help us feel aligned inside and out

When we are not in alignment with our values we can experience a feeling of frustration, resentment, or anger, a moment of value conflict. The value conflict can’t be easily resolved with facts because values are at the core of who we are. We can persuade others to change their opinions but not their core values. 

Examples of Value Conflicts

  • Loyalty-Honesty
  • Competition-Cooperation
  • Excitement-Security
  • Rationality-Spontaneity
  • Variation-Stability
  • Individual freedom-Respect for others

Value Conflicts can happen within ourselves.  For example, you have a core value of variation, you really love change, however, you need to have financial stability. You may find there are times you are resentful to have to choose or you may feel something is out of kilter. Check in with yourself, which value is important at this moment? What could you change, add or eliminate?

When we’re out of sync with our core values, what matters most to us,  we don’t feel good within ourselves, we feel we lost our Mojo,  and we seem to struggle to create a fulfilling life. However when we know our core values and consciously live according to them, our path becomes a wee bit more clear, there’s a sense of ease, grace and perhaps a lot more fun.  We Thrive Whole~Heartily!!!

 

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  1. Claudette Chenevert

    Sharona, I love that you shared these four points:
    Values help us make wiser decisions
    Values help us through challenging times
    Values help us keep on track
    Values help us feel aligned inside and out
    This shows just how important being clear and knowing what our values are can be in creating the kind of life we want.
    Brilliant post.

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    • Sharona

      Claudette, thank you.

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  2. Sharona

    Jackie, so true about a stepping off point to go deeper…

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  3. Tandy Elisala

    Oh my goodness, I REALLY resonate with this article about the importance of living our values and being in alignment. You make fabulous points about the benefits of knowing and living our values consistently. When we are out of alignment, dis-ease happens in some form. I am a huge proponent of helping people understand and live their values. The more people are aware of them, the better they are at living them. It’s also good to make this a family affair and create family values.

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    • Sharona

      Tandy thanks for your insights…

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  4. Cathy Sykora

    SO correct. We have a company values statement and those guide our focus and decision making. Being clear on your values makes it easier to manage your time and your life. Values change at different times in our lives too. Good points.

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    • Sharona

      Cathy, maybe we need to have our own personal values statement…

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  5. Jackie Harder

    Interesting point about conflicting values. I never really thought about it. Being torn in different directions can be way uncomfortable, Honestly, I don’t think you can rationalize away conflicting values…you either have them or you don’t. I think it’s also a great stepping-off point to do a deeper examination of what you really believe and want in your life.
    Great post. Certainly made me think!

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